Ask Miss Nish

Hi Miss Nish,

I am having a problem with my mom!! She would never let me to go to any of my friends houses ..even if it was their birthday. Now some of them get mad at me because i didn’t come. Every time i tell her she says no – only public places and i don’t know what should i do?? She only allows me to go to the people she knows houses and i think it’s not fair ! I really want to know why, i know it’s not a big problem but may you give me any advice please?

Thank you

Hello sweetheart,

Thanks for your email and I want you to know I completely understand and feel your pain. My Mom was the same way! Asking for permission to go anywhere turned into an ordeal and usually ended up with her saying no. Trust me when I tell you there are other girls going through this same thing!

You mention in your letter she will only allow you to go where she knows the people you will be with. That is the key Miss Girl! Get your friends introduced to her as soon as possible. Even better enlist the help of the parents – ask their Moms if they wouldn’t mind introducing themselves to your Mom so she can meet them and get a sense of the people you are hanging with. Then when she does allow you to go be on your best behavior! Make sure you get back BEFORE your curfew. Establish trust so it will get to the point where your Mom trusts your judgment and will loosen up a bit. If you have done anything to allow her to not trust you ask her how you can win her confidence back and then DO IT! With open communication and being a young lady of your word this will turn around. Remember you will not be a teen forever and right now it is your Mom’s job to look after you – so find her comfort zone.

Let me know how things work out and I wish you all the best.

With love,

Miss Nish