Ask Miss Nish

Dear Miss Nish,

I am 19 years old and a student at a college known as a “party school”. There is always a party going on and my friends and I really have a lot of fun when we go. The problem we run into is the guys we meet at these parties ask for our numbers but then we never hear from them. Sometimes we see them on campus and they act like they don’t even know us. I don’t want to always give out my number expecting a call and always being disappointed. If I don’t give out my number I will come across as anti-social. What do you suggest I do?

Thanks,

Pam

Hi Pam,

Thanks for this question – I get asked this a lot at our “He Loves Me!” seminar we conduct for women of all ages. Guys are something else! On the one hand you are hearing one thing but the action is in total contrast to what is being said. I feel your pain and I know every woman reading this completely understand where you are coming from. So with that said – I want you to know it is not you! There is nothing wrong with you - in fact you got the attention of the guy so you must be a rock star!

Here is some feedback that was given to me from one of my male panelist from my seminar. First off at this age guys are all about getting the numbers and bragging to their friends. The more numbers they get the more they brag. It is literally an ego thing! While I understand you want to appear friendly at some point these guys need to see getting your number as a privilege and not group you in with every other girl they meet! When you decide to give out your number, tell the guy your week is busy (I am sure it is with assignments!) but he can call you on Thursday at 4:00 for example. This way if he calls you then you will know he is into you. If he doesn’t – well then you move on! This will also keep you from waiting by the phone for his call. Makes sense doesn’t it?

Share these tips with your friends and before you know it those guys will know not to play around when approaching you! I wish you all the best in your studies and I know you will go far!

With love,

Miss Nish