Parents, during my conferences and seminars I have the opportunity to speak with women and teen girls about a range of different subjects. One in particular always stands out because it is so detrimental to the mindset of both – unforgiveness.   

Unforgiveness is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die from it. Ridiculous – right? You have got to let stuff go. Holding on to things is not only a mental and physical burden but most of the time the person you are still angry with doesn’t know and sometimes doesn’t even care. I have met single moms who won’t forgive the dad for leaving and take this negative attitude and bad mouth him so badly to the daughter that it now taints the way the daughter feels about her dad. Let it go. What about the friend you thought you had and this person betrayed you. Let it go. Family members acting shady and making you wish you were part of another family. Let it go. For your own sanity you have to. It is a choice and sometimes it can be tough but what is the alternative? Having a grudge the rest of your life and showing your daughter this is how you deal with issues? Remember she is always watching you to see how you handle tough situations. The way you handle things will be the way she will handle things in the future.

Did you know harboring unforgiveness is a blessing blocker? God commands you to forgive as He forgives you. When you do it opens up the ability for Him to answer your prayers (Colossians 3:13). Walking around with unforgiveness = unanswered prayer. So for the sake of your sanity and to display a positive image to your daughter, forgive and let it go. She will welcome the change in you and you will show her that although you may look like the weak one now – you are really the strong one. What a great way to display positive behavior. I promise you she will always remember it and it will be a life lesson for her forever.

Blessings,

Min. Nish